Ask any guy that’s been in a committed relationship for a few years what his biggest issue is, and chances are it has something to do with the sex (or lack thereof). Sure, there’s more to a relationship than getting it in every other day, but the monotony or declining frequency of physical intimacy weighs heavily on their psyche. You can’t help but wonder if you’ve lost your groove or if she’s simply not that into you anymore.
You don’t want to bring it up for fear it will turn into an argument, but you’ve got needs. Though it can be frustrating to decode what’s going on with your lady in the bedroom, you shouldn’t jump to conclusions. If you took the time to do a bit of research, ask her questions, or talk to other women in your life, you might come to learn that it’s not you at all. Continue reading to learn more about women’s health and its relation to sex and ways you can show your support.
She’s Dealing With a Health Issue
If your lady frequently turns you down for sex because she’s tired, in pain, hormonal, or simply not in the mood, she could be dealing with an underlying health issue. Anything from a poor diet and a sedentary lifestyle to diabetes and cancer can make it challenging for a woman to keep up with an active sex life. Not to mention, there are health issues exclusive to women like yeast infections and hormonal imbalances to endometriosis and fibroids that can be causing her fatigue, pain, or discomfort during intercourse.
The best way you can support your woman if she’s going through a health problem is to educate yourself. Learn more about her condition, the side effects, and possible lifestyle changes and treatment options she can try to improve her quality of life. Lastly, try to make the best of the moments you do have together. When she’s not in the mood, respect her space, and entertain yourself with an x-rated video or adult toys for men.
She’s Stressed to The Max
Women take on the weight of the world. On top of being the best wife or girlfriend, they also have responsibilities like being a mother, career woman, friend, and more. Seeing as how she is only one person, balancing things out isn’t always easy. As such, there are going to be times when she’s really just too worn out to do anything other than sleep.
If your lady is stressed out, be the supportive boyfriend and take some of the weight off her shoulders. When she’s working late in the office, prepare dinner or clean up the house, so she doesn’t have to. If it’s been a while since she had some alone time, take the kids out for the day to give her a break. Volunteer to pitch in with personal or professional tasks she has to help her days run smoother.
She’s Insecure
To you, she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Yet, inside she feels like an ugly duckling. The longer you’ve been in a relationship with someone, the more you learn about their shortcomings. Due in part to the pressures that society places on women and beauty, many females struggle with low self-esteem and insecurities. No matter how great they are, all they see is what they’re not.
While there’s only so much you can do to encourage your woman to love herself; you can be an instrumental part in helping to boost her confidence along the way. Compliment her on something positive regularly. Whether it’s something she has on or her natural beauty, it will light up her world.
When the physical intimacy in your relationship stops, it’s easy to assume it’s something you’re doing wrong. Though it can be the case sometimes, in many instances, it has nothing to do with you. As a person’s physical and emotional wellbeing is tied to a healthy sex life, your lady may be going through something significant in her life. The best way to improve things in and out of the bedroom is to be a supportive partner and help her weather the storm.
