I’d put my money on the skill of the magician. The perfect, in sync, climactic ecstasy portrayed in the media is more illusion than reality. Sex isn’t perfect. In fact, sometimes, particularly in new encounters, it can be a disaster. Make it seem like you are late for a bus and you can pretty much guarantee, you won’t be making that stop again.
Want to know what a girl wants? She wants the same thing you do. Sexual bliss. Satisfaction. Release. This is where the magic comes in. Take the time to take care of her needs first. Use your imagination. With some promoting, she will guide you. Hands, fingers, tongue will all come into play and don’t underestimate the power of words. Tell her she is hot and is driving you crazy. How much more erotic will it be to watch her react to your magic? This is particularly important early on in the relationship to demonstrate your unselfishness in bed. Yes it takes effort but if she matters…it is worth it. As the relationship develops, you will soon master the tricks and the magic becomes easier.
Remember the effort you put in to understanding her body and desires may result in her having some tricks of her own. So use the wand but cultivate that magic.